There comes a time in our life when we realize we don't have all the answers to solve our relationship issues.  Talking to family and friends sometimes complicates the matter because they're opinions many times are bias. Look no further, help is here! "Ask Ms. Mami", get advice from a wise mature objective point of view.  Ms. Mami is a self published author, mother, grandmother and friend to many.  She has been a wife, widow and divorcee. Life has thrown her many obstacles which has granted her a keen sense of do's and dont's and afforded her a trunk full of wisdom that she's willing to share.  Ms. Mami is ready to give you advice about any relationship dilemma's you're facing.

Scenario 1 -
 
From: Ahurtyoungbrotherinthecity

Hello Ms. Mami, I've been dating this woman and recently found out while I was in the barbershop that she's been sleeping with multiply men. I can't tell you how embrassed I was to hear this brother talk indirectly to me in front of everybody. He found this to be amusing, seems the matter had already been the talk of the shop from the look on the other barber's faces.  Now I find myself struggling to get out of this relationship.  Although I know I need to leave this woman alone, something keeps plugging me back. How do I move on? Please help!

To: Ahurtyoungbrotherinthecity

I'm sorry to hear that you've been played. It is a horrible hurting feeling to realize the woman you call "your girl" is a trick. I'm sure you would have appreciated it if the young man had told you in private. However, know that one day what he thought to be funny will become his pain. How do you move on? First need to realize that you are valuable and you don't need to waste anymore time dating this girl. It should be obvious to you that she dosen't care about herself,you or any other man for that matter. Leaving her alone would be a great gift to you from you. Do not allow her to keep power over you! What keeps pulling you back is her sexual seduction. You are man now, act like one and take charge of your thought process.  Wake up and realize young man sex is not everything! We all make mistakes loving the wrong person but don't let this bad experience harden you. You can find true love if you let yourself. There is a wonderful young woman hoping you'll find her. She is waiting for that special someone (you) to share her love with. Go for it!

Scenario 2 -

From:lovejones

Hello Ms. Mami, my bff is dating this guy and she thinks he's totally devoted to her. However, I know different because I'm sleeping with him.  I know this is wrong of me and I do want to stop seeing him.  I've told him that he needs to leave my bff alone. She's a really sweet girl and I know another guy who really likes her. He said that he can't stop dating her because she helps him out financially. What should I do?

To: lovejones

You should be ashamed of yourself allowing a man to come between a sisterhood.  If you care so much about your so called bff why don't YOU have enough courage and tell her the truth? Don't think for one moment that nobody else knows that your sleeping with him.  It's just a matter of time before she learns how both of you have been stabbing her in the back. You've allowed this guy to use you and your bff. When the truth is found out and she's calling you all kind of names, don't forget to tell her about the guy who really likes her.

Scenario 3 -

From: maninthemiddle

Hello Ms. Mami, my man is married and has a beautiful family but he's cheating on his wife with a stripper. I've tried talking to him many times advising him to stop having the affair to no avail. He thinks he has control over the situation. However, his wife called me several days ago, left a message saying she wants to talk to me about him and the matter is urgent. I don't want to get in the middle of this mess and I don't want to see my buddy loose the best thing that's ever happened to him either. How should I handle the matter?

To: maninthemiddle

I can understand you want to save your man's family life but you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved.  Obviously, he doesn't value what he has or else he wouldn't have grambled them. So let the chips fall where they may. As for his wife calling you, return the call and find out what she wants, don't assume she knows anything about his affair. If the call is what you think all you should do is offer her the best resloving the matter. Tell her that you don't want to be in the middle then PRAY for the best.